Sounds kinda harsh but I’m seriously worried about future generations. Living in New York City is a unique experience. You probably hear that often but it really is like no other place. That being said, I’m sure not every young person lacks courtesy, respect and motivation. I started riding the train about a year ago and the young people I was coming in contact with were scary! Foul mouths, disrespectful, un-classy young ladies and, Oh, the conversations I heard…
In 2010, I started working with teens and I found great conversations. I enjoyed hearing their perspectives, concerns, and found my second youth in spirit. I know they’re not all damned; at the same time, I’m seeing more and more young people becoming rude, disrespectful, and lazy.
Why, when I was a young girl…ok, I won’t go that route but we have to do something. Whitney knew the children were the future and how important it was to teach them well.
Can I completely place blame on parents. Yes and no. I as a parent constantly remind my children to use kind words, be respectful to adults, say excuse me even if others are rude. I also tell them no often. It gives them a healthy balance. They are sometimes annoyed at my favorite saying “sometimes I say yes, sometimes I say no”. So much that they often rolls their eyes and finish the sentence before I get it out. They’ve learned to just deal with it. my daughter also picked up a great line (I wish I knew who to credit) “You get what you get and you don’t get upset”. Plain and simple phrases.
At parent teacher conference, I asked how she was getting along with the other children. My concern was that she often plays alone. The teacher said that other girls are catty and she chooses not to participate. I was glad and worried. Why are other girls being catty in 1st grade? I always tell my daughter it’s important to make others feel good not feel bad. Wasn’t there an anti-bullying movement going around? What happened?
Teenagers. Whenever we get on the bus, the children roll their eyes when they see teenagers. My children are well aware that the amount of profanity they use is ridiculous and their noise level is out of control. We all make the best effort to catch the earlier bus to avoid them. Where is the parenting? Yes, I’m ranting and blaming parents and I feel I can do so since I am a parent. I am always on my children’s back about making sure they are aware of how others are feeling. No one wants to hear loud teenagers cursing about a notebook early in the morning. Literally every other word is profane.
I’m positive that young people would be less lazy and more motivated if there were more outlets for them. Why do we have to pay $800 for ten karate lessons? Is it necessary to charge $1500 for piano lessons? Back in the day…I know I said I wouldn’t go there but why not make comparisons. Kids were taught arts for less or for free. Look how well rounded those generations turned out. If you have class to the mix, the underserved are the low income. Big surprise! Right?
So, what can we do about? Nothing…. I started mentoring young people after being involved with a great non-profit. When I stopped mentoring with them, I kept finding young people to spend time with. Young people need adults to be role models.
You can be a Big Brother or Big Sister. There are tons of other organizations that you can link up with or knock on your neighbor’s door. Why not?